Recently as part of my own edification I began reading the book Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch .  In his book and on his CD he approaches the difficulty of sexual dysfunction and the creation of impasses or “gridlock” in a relationship.

Dr. Schnarch does amazing work to help us understand how the majority of the difficulties in our relationship are common and in some ways even healthy.  He reinforces our need to feel confidence in ourselves and what we want, while being able to negotiate with our partners to avoid “gridlocks” or impasses.  He discusses being able to stand on our own feet, independent of our partner, so we are able to want them instead of needing them, a much stronger connection.  Dr. Schnarch is eloquent and concise in his discussions and addresses being able to create stronger bonds and more satisfying sexual relationships through tolerating our anxieties and stretching our comfort zones.  I highly recommend this book to anyone in a relationship who wants to create stronger, more loving bonds with their partner.